IS IT NECESSARY TO ADMIT IT?

Many of us might be guilty of the same crime against the famous actor of our country, Piolo Pascual. When many people, called him a person from the third sex, in which nothing is wrong in being such. I realized this just now, even if the society is not as condemning as ages ago, does a person of a different sexual orientiation, needs to admit it?

The first question will be why? Why does he need to admit it? For the comfort of some people? Why if he/she turns out to be the one that is uncomfortable? Is it only a selfish desire, of an outsider to know it? Some are comfortable in being labeled, as someone that they belong to, but some are not. They are those people, that do things that couples do, yet they don’t want to be called as a couple. I think the same thing goes with sexuality.

Then the next question is, what will happen granting someone admits it? Will they be welcomed with open arms, and with respect? Realistically speaking, the answer is no. Some will understand you, most will still condemn you, for being a person of a different sexual orientiation. Not because Vice Ganda, and Boy Abunda are widely respected and accepted for being gays, for ordinary people that will also be the case. What if you are besieged by judgemental persons in your environment, and worse, in your home, that doesn’t understand, and doesn’t want to understand? What good it will do to them in admitting it?

There are two things, that I learned in few years in existing in the world. One is, bad habits are hard to break. We are used to be taught, that being a person of a different sexual orientiation, are a sin, condemnable. And other people, even labelling it as a disease, that’s need to be cured. Eventhough our President, mentioned same remarks, he is not the one I am talking about. Some people still carry that belief in their minds, and there’s no way of converting them to think otherwise. Even if you are the right one, and they are the wrong.

The other thing that I learned, humans, not only Filipinos, are quick to condemned, without learning the facts first. That is the truth, from time in memorial. Facts are not really important to people, it only becomes important when facts slaps us in the face.

I realized this, while watching PBB. They are suspecting a housemate named Sky, (I’m not sure of exact name or spelling) of a different sexual orientiation. Then he admits that he is a male, but to preference, it is limitless. But because he is being clingy, touchy, to a certain housemate named  Diana, they suspect again, that he is using her to hide his true orientiation. Then suddenly there is talks of wanting to help him open up himself. Then I said to myself, why? Did he seek help, of wanting to open up? He is confident on who he is, as I am seeing it, so why there is a talk opening up. So Big Brother intervened, and called Mae to the confession room. Big Brother made her realized, that what she wants to do, even with good intentions, may not have the right outcome.

Another thing is, you sometimes can’t apply the same approach, even if the problem looks the same, or only looks the same. Not because it works in one problem, it will work with another. Mae, one of the housemate, is thinking that he made her brother came out of the closet, and his life got better because of it. She is thinking of applying the same to Sky.

The conclusion is, admitting one’s sexual orientiation is a personal prerogative of someone. We shouldn’t forced the issue, just for our own comfort as an outsider of their lives. As I have said, I have been guilty of the one, that is saying to Piolo to come out in the open, that is if he is really even a gay to begin with. If someone admits it, applaud them for their bravery. It’s still not an easy thing to do, even this age. If someone you feels is kinda hiding it, let them be, don’t pressured them to come out. It’s not cowardice nor being fraudulent on their part, they just wanna live comfortable lives. Like the most of us.